Dyer Family Happenings

A.K.A. Mommy needs a place to write!

Peace, love and being a momma — September 22, 2016

Peace, love and being a momma

Today is International Peace Day. A day to spread peace and love speak and actions with everyone you meet. To show this world that we can and will not only conquer the rough stuff of life with love and smiles but that TOGETHER as a people we are better. Think about it, all of the beautifully amazing different things we all bring to the table. Thoughts, ways to worship, food, clothing, music, it’s amazing and beautiful.

And I don’t know why people are so scared of the things they don’t understand.

Embracing the things I don’t understand is just part of our world. Or rather has been for the past 5.5 years. There were things I didn’t understand before but I’d either learn about them or scootch around them, I was in controlĀ  of what I slammed face first into. And then Joel came into my world. He was new and I didn’t totally understand him and then we got married and I still didn’t have him totally figured out but I was much more comfortable with him. And then came Leo and the same, and then Max and holy Lord.

And just when I thought I was starting to understand Leo, bam- he regressed and was diagnosed with Autism. Same thing with Max. God has not let me live in comfort with these kids yet, and guess what…


woah, wait a minute what. Yeah. Even in the moments, days, weeks, of uncertainty and confusion I am okay. Go figure that one. Even when I am not sure how to handle a behavior, how to make words come, how to keep health insurance, how to make a living, how to get from one place to the next in the correct time, I am okay. Why? Because I have faith. (Yes I have faith in God but He’s not who I am specifically talking about right now)

I have faith in the people around me. Family, friends, teachers, strangers. I have faith that there will be listening and love and understanding. That there will be hugs and tears and smiles and celebrations. Because that faith is what keeps the love moving from one person to the next. It’s what keeps me waking up every morning and wanting to push forward and through to that next hurdle. Because I know that there will always be someone with a kind or helpful word that will help get us over it. Because loving is learning.

So lets keep moving the love forward, even in the simplest of ways to one another. Have faith in your fellow man even when you might not understand his or her lifestyle choice, religion, choice of shoes. Because those things aren’t as important as being better together, and being together as people trying to live and love.

Wishing you all a peace filled evening and life




“High Functioning” — February 24, 2015

“High Functioning”

The hardest word I deal with when having to talk about Leo.
Can he talk? He can now. Can he play with friends? So much better than 6 months ago. Does he “look” like he has special needs? Not at all.

Trying to explain to every new nurse or doctor or teacher or tutor or social person that Leo is autistic I always get a look. It’s that “you sure” look. It’s that- “huh, he sure seems like a normal 4 year old” look. And then something happens. A sensory something sets him off, or he can’t find his words, or he wants to play and can’t figure out the balance between tag and hitting.

There are some situations where I think it’s almost harder to have a kiddo that can mostly function on his own, than one that needs lots of help. Expectations (there is that nasty dagger of a word again) are that he is a normal dude, that can follow directions, and communicate his needs or discomforts, and most of the time he can. At least he can to me. (I speak very fluent Leo) But to the rest of the world it’s a craps shoot.

Be kind to those kids that can but have trouble. Be kind to their parents. Watch the stares and questioning looks and judgmental body language when a melt down does erupt. Be kind. (we should pretty much do that to everyone anyway right…)

My go to for the week:

“So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual uplifting” – Romans 14:19

Lets uplift everyone, lets try to understand one another. Lets try to be patient with the things we do not understand, or want to accept or question.

Let us uplift those in circumstances that make them have to explain their child to every new person they come in contact with- because something might make things difficult for him. Let us have kind words and glances and postures.

Let us not judge what we do not know.