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Faith unwaivering — October 16, 2016

Faith unwaivering

Okay. I’ve had to step away from the news so many times in the past 6 months because of being angered, irritated and totally outraged at not only the actual news but the way it is being presented. Its ugly, its fear driven and its completely unacceptable.

Election years are hard. People shoot for the neck at one another they try to find the soft spot to poke and poke at. We repremand toddlers for this kind of behavior but every 4 years it becomes acceptable “banter” between candidates. Why our standards of mutual respect have taken a dump I’ll never understand.

Election years are hard for me on a spiritual level as well. My spirituality and belief in God is very personal. It doesn’t mean I won’t talk about it but I choose not to verbally lead with it. I do however try to lead by living it. I also believe that my personal beliefs do not traffic direct how I feel the government should be run. I do not live in a “Christian Nation” nor do I believe my beliefs are the only beliefs that should be accepted. I do believe that law is black and white, that there is way too much private interest money in very public issues and that religion of any kind has NO place dominating the government.

It is disgusting to me how one candidate claimed to be “Saved” and since making this public declaration has declined in his behavior. I’m not talking about his past (but his general disrespect of people is pretty awful) I am talking about lies that come out of his mouth, his threats, boasting, and general arrogance. I am disgusted with his followers that feel that violence, physical intimidation and awful words are appropriate ways of communication.

I have been worried about our country if Trump is elected and now, very honestly his followers scare me more. The violence is already amping up. If Trump is a Christian, as he openly professed he would be attempting to calm things down, even more than that, he would have never amped them up to begin with.

While my heart it hurting, my nerves are on edge and the Holiday season approaching my faith will not waiver. I have faith as a people we will shut down the violence. I have faith that as a people we will show love and acceptancefor one another. I have faith that as a people we will learn from one another, we will lift one another up and we will pull through this time of anger and ugly with a more positive community.


Peace, love and being a momma — September 22, 2016

Peace, love and being a momma

Today is International Peace Day. A day to spread peace and love speak and actions with everyone you meet. To show this world that we can and will not only conquer the rough stuff of life with love and smiles but that TOGETHER as a people we are better. Think about it, all of the beautifully amazing different things we all bring to the table. Thoughts, ways to worship, food, clothing, music, it’s amazing and beautiful.

And I don’t know why people are so scared of the things they don’t understand.

Embracing the things I don’t understand is just part of our world. Or rather has been for the past 5.5 years. There were things I didn’t understand before but I’d either learn about them or scootch around them, I was in controlĀ  of what I slammed face first into. And then Joel came into my world. He was new and I didn’t totally understand him and then we got married and I still didn’t have him totally figured out but I was much more comfortable with him. And then came Leo and the same, and then Max and holy Lord.

And just when I thought I was starting to understand Leo, bam- he regressed and was diagnosed with Autism. Same thing with Max. God has not let me live in comfort with these kids yet, and guess what…


woah, wait a minute what. Yeah. Even in the moments, days, weeks, of uncertainty and confusion I am okay. Go figure that one. Even when I am not sure how to handle a behavior, how to make words come, how to keep health insurance, how to make a living, how to get from one place to the next in the correct time, I am okay. Why? Because I have faith. (Yes I have faith in God but He’s not who I am specifically talking about right now)

I have faith in the people around me. Family, friends, teachers, strangers. I have faith that there will be listening and love and understanding. That there will be hugs and tears and smiles and celebrations. Because that faith is what keeps the love moving from one person to the next. It’s what keeps me waking up every morning and wanting to push forward and through to that next hurdle. Because I know that there will always be someone with a kind or helpful word that will help get us over it. Because loving is learning.

So lets keep moving the love forward, even in the simplest of ways to one another. Have faith in your fellow man even when you might not understand his or her lifestyle choice, religion, choice of shoes. Because those things aren’t as important as being better together, and being together as people trying to live and love.

Wishing you all a peace filled evening and life